I’ve got that joy, joy, joy, joy

by humanmama on November 13, 2013

In this sorta stressful and very busy time of year there are a lot of people who ask me “how do you stay so happy?” And I will answer them, of course, “non-prescription drugs.” But all joking aside, I am pretty happy. And here’s why:

1.) It’s in my nature. Some people are happier naturally and some have to work pretty hard to be happy. And let’s not argue semantics: I am talking about love-my-life joy, not “I’m happy because I go to strip clubs” or “I’m happy because no one asks anything of me.” We both know that’s fleeting. I’m talking about looking into the mirror, even on the bad days, and saying, “ok, I can still deal. This’ll be okay.” It’s something I was born with, but even if I wasn’t, it’s still a state of being that I’d like to strive towards.

2.) I like a challenge. If you don’t like being challenged, being happy might not be for you. Because in life–living with another person, being a parent, being an employee, being a friend–the great things come to those who work at them. If it seems like I’m patient with my kids, it’s sometimes because they’re delightful, and sometimes because I’m working verrrry hard at not losing my shit. I weigh the pros and cons of losing my shit, sure, but then often come to the conclusion that in he long run, it’s not worth how the kids OR I will feel when I go all Ike Turner on them. So I take a deep breath and do it again. Not easy but worth it, and besides it makes me seem so easygoing if people don’t hear my inside thoughts on the outside.

3.) It’s better. It is better to be happy. It is more work in the end, but it’s work that’s worth it. Attending counseling and/or dealing with things that make you sad or angry, working out, cleaning, studying, even making cookies–all these things are a LOT of prep and totally worth the end result. You feel better. You feel stronger. And your life gets better. (I do also feel this way about making cookies, if you’re wondering.)

So, you! Friend! Get out there and get happy. Just try. Get a support system to help you and get happy. If you need me, I’m just a phone call or email away. But I gotta warn you: I’ll probably point out the good in the situation. I can’t help it. It’s in my nature.


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