a new direction

by humanmama on June 16, 2011

Hmm.

So, I began this blog as an outlet for my mental energy when I became a mom. To stimulate my mind as a stay-at-homer. And although I definitely identify as a mommy-blogger, I didn’t know there even were such things until I began doing a little research. There are about ten billion mommy blogs on the internet, and that’s just in English. I can’t read too many other languages, but I bet there are even more than that if you included them all.

In some of my research, I found a dad-blog, and I love it. It’s Metro Dad, and he’s hilarious. But then (horror!) I discovered this little gem about blogging. He was going to shut his blog down this year, and why?

“Why? Because let’s face it. Blogging is a medium designed for memes, emo tumblr photos, inspirational quotes, and the internal musings of disaffected 23-year-old women and stay-at-home moms. “

Noooooooooooooooooooooooooo! (Also, haha.)

He’s right. But I don’t identify as that.

My first thought was that I was TAKING BACK the Stay at Home status, retrofitting it as cool and nouveau. And it’s true! I do want to make it cool again. But more than that. I don’t want anyone to feel judged for working or not working by this blog, or by this Mama. So actually I don’t want this to be just a Stay at Homer blog. I want this to be a…

what?

I talked to my dad about this blog. He’s been in sales for 25 years. More. And he said “everyone’s selling something, and you need something that people will want to buy if you want people to follow your blog. So, ‘what are you selling?'”

And I said the first thing that came to my mind. “Therapy!”

I was a therapist before this. When I had a career. And I felt very important, especially that people would come to me to be made better. (I tried not to tell them outright that they were the ones doing all the work.) I loved helping. I loved seeing a situation (parent/child, spouse-to-spouse) get better. I loved seeing firsthand people’s lives get happier. So I didn’t know it, but when I began this blog I wasn’t only venting. I was writing something and sending it out there so people would relate. So no one would think they were alone. And to, hopefully, give someone a laugh.

To remind people that it’s going to turn out okay in the end. And that this is temporary, and one day we will, as all humans do, wish for it all back. Even the bad times.

So actually I’m not taking this blog in a new direction. But a new direction is where it’s been taking me. And I hope you’ll come along for the ride. We’re going to have fun.

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